Toxicity: Engaging in Healthy Behaviors.

 

                            Remaining intuitive. Remaining grounded. Remaining peaceful. 

    I think often times we try to find the flaws within others that we forget to take a look into ourselves. While others around us have toxic traits there are ones that lie within yourself unknowingly or knowingly. It is up to you to figure out what they are and learn to work towards bettering yourself. Learn to identify what makes you toxic and how can you evolve from it. 

So lets take a moment to ask ourselves how do we honestly define "toxic". My personal interpretation of toxic is having a trait that you know is negative and outputting onto others or sometimes yourself. Wether we do this intentionally or wether its just a natural part of the human make up we wanna take the time to better understand what it is that makes us want to indulge in this toxic trait. Over the years I have had time self reflect and I realize that one of my toxic traits is that I am argumentative. I feel as though I let my emotions overtake the situation and that causes me to want to engage in a toxic behavior of starting an argument instead of being constructive and just having a conversation. But what I have learned is this gives me no benefit, I gain nothing from being anger and bitter. Rather than engaging in a trait that leaves me with no true benefit why not take that same energy and convert it into be cooperative and understanding? I think there is a large range of toxic starting with being arguemtuive and then on a larger scale engaging in situations where you know the outcome could be detrimental. I do believe it is normal for us as human to have a toxic trait or two but I also think its healthy to actually dig dip into what it is that causes you to be toxic. Why do you feel like a negative situation always needs a response? Why do you feel as though arguing with your significant other 85% of the time is healthy? Why do family members tend to want to bring you down when they don't understand the situation? Sometimes we may find it hard to believe but family members can be toxic as well. If they aren't supporting you in the way yo thought they would, if there is cause for negativity than it is okay to identify that your family member could be toxic. I think we tend to want to put family on a pedestal and not correct them when they are wrong but just like the toxicity is within us, its with them as well. Your friends, they can hold toxicity towards you as well, I think its sometimes easier to spot this in them. If your engaging in behaviors that you normally wouldn't do and you have to second guess yourself while they are encouraging a decision that you can't stand on alone than thats a problem. While it is easier to want to point out what is wrong with everyone else we have to take a hard look at ourselves and start the work there. If we tell ourselves that that toxic trait we have or are engaging in is not right than we can help the others around us not engage as well. I am a firm believer that everything starts within yourself, so take the time to identify the negative traits, the flaws and work on them not just for yourself but for others as well.Nothing happens overnight but you can become the best version of yourself piece by piece everyday by making the necessary changes. 

Much Love, 

Thi