Closure: Healing and Moving Forward

 



                              You can have peace. You can move forward. You can heal. 


             Closure, how necessary is it? Is it something we need to move forward with our lives? What exactly are we obtaining from closing a certain chapter in our life? Is it detrimental or beneficial to the growing process?

        When I think about closure I don't define it just in terms of receiving it from a relationship, I also think about it in the form of receiving it from friendships or jobs or anything that you feel needs that last piece of closing before moving forward. For me I feel as though closure is important because I can't truly heal from a situation if I don't have all the unknown questions answered. I don't want the unanswered questions to hinder or bound me from moving forward into my future.  Wether it ends badly or mutually I still need to have a clear understanding of what went wrong and or right and how can I learn from it. I think of closure as the last remain remarks of a situation. It is at this point you are able to truly speak on what it was that didn't quite pan out how it should have and how you can work towards meeting these changes for your next situation. But is closure honestly necessary for you to move on with your life? Honestly no, I don't think its required but I do believe it to be beneficial.  A lot of times people feel as though they don't need closure because when they are done with that person or situation that just means they are done but what about being able to make the changes moving forward so that your next outcome is different. Wouldn't you like to know what didn't work or what you can change going forward to help shape you into a better version of yourself? Or how about just hearing the other persons side of what went wrong  or receiving that much needed apology? These are some of the things to gain from asking for closure. I understand some people are able to heal from just moving forward and not looking back but personally I am not one of those people. Before I can truly move forward I need to know the things to work on within myself moving forward and to truly close that door. This point of closure will be emotional because you are actually having to confront what went wrong and having to accept that it is the end of that chapter but once you are able to obtain that peace, the outcome is so much greater. I also need you to understand that not everyone will give you that closure you need and that is totally fine. It takes time and growth for the reciprocating party and or yourself to allow you that final peace. Regardless if your are able to solely confront your feelings  and understand the changes that need to be made within yourself than you are already ahead of your healing process and journey. Moving forward is obtainable and you will reach that final goal of peace that you so badly require. Healing is painful, beautiful, loud, crazy, all wrapped into one emotion but it is necessary and apart of life, apart of your growth as a person. Let the wounds heal themselves and focus in on your path to personal growth and the rest will work itself out in the most beautiful way possible.


Much Love, 


Thi 

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